There are many standards of conduct in dance, and we would like to share them with you so you can be prepared and better understand how the dance scene works.
★ PERSONAL HYGIENE: Dance Classes & Nights Out
Very important: before going out dancing Kizomba, make sure you take a shower, brush your teeth, have mints in your bag, and definitely wear deodorant and perfume.
Leaders, bring a mini towel and 2–3 spare T-shirts so you can change if you sweat too much.
Everyone appreciates dancers who take care of themselves on a night out.
★ ASKING FOR DANCES
In traditional culture, ladies do not usually ask for dances, particularly in Africa where the dance originates, or within their own communities in Europe.
However, since we are teaching a non-cultural audience in Europe and due to the higher number of female attendees at events, classes, and parties we encourage ladies/followers to also ask for dances.
Of course, men/leaders should continue asking as well.
Remember the tips shared in our weekly Thursday classes to avoid the “walk of shame” for both leaders and followers.
★ PEOPLE TALKING ON THE DANCE FLOOR
When people are chatting on the dance floor, it’s usually light conversation, and it’s okay to ask them to dance.
If people are seated at the back or away from the dance floor, it’s best not to invite them—they may be having a deeper conversation.
★ RECEIVING A “NO” FOR A DANCE
Understand that a “no” is not personal and has nothing to do with you.
Don’t dwell on it, don’t feel bad or sad just move on, enjoy your night, and spend time with your friends.
★ DANCING AT PARTIES / SOCIALS
It’s fine to dance 1 to 3 songs with the same person, but we encourage switching after a maximum of 3 dances so everyone gets a chance to dance with different people. 💃🏽🕺
If you choose to dance more with the same person, be mindful of how it might be perceived.
★ FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE DURING A DANCE
If someone is too close, holding you too tightly, or doing anything that doesn’t feel right, please give them discreet feedback whether you are a follower or a leader.
Give them the benefit of the doubt and tell them once or twice. If they continue, simply say thank you and leave the dance floor.(yes let them standing there lol)
Reminder: when you’re out dancing, everyone is focused on themselves, so don’t feel bad about leaving 😂
Also, don’t confuse connection in dance with attraction.
You may feel attracted to someone, but that doesn’t mean the feeling is mutual. Always respect boundaries and avoid assumptions.
★ TEACHERS
Avoid asking teachers to teach you steps on the dance floor or during socials—classes are the appropriate space for learning.
However, don’t be afraid to ask teachers to dance. It can boost your confidence and help you improve your leading or following.
Also, teachers usually need a break after classes before social dancing—please allow them that time.
★ MAKING MISTAKES
In class: It’s perfectly fine to make mistakes—that’s how you learn. Don’t feel bad about it.
On the dance floor: It’s also okay to make mistakes. There’s no need to apologise or point them out just smile and keep going. No one wants to stop multiple times during a dance. We are all learning, and mistakes happen. Keep stepping and smiling 🙂
Mistakes don’t let them discourage you.
★ BEGINNERS / NEWBIES
If available, always attend classes first before a party.
Not only will you learn, but you’ll also meet people you’ll recognise later at socials. This makes it much easier to ask for dances and feel more comfortable during the party.
★ BUILDING THE DANCE COMMUNITY
As teachers, organisers, and social dancers, we all help build and sustain the community.
It’s important to give back. You may be new now, but as you improve, remember where you started. Support beginners the same way—be welcoming, friendly, and offer them a dance.
If you enjoy a party or event, share it with friends and invite them along. Organisers and teachers always need support to grow the community.
Together, we keep the community growing.